In India, Mostly men face the same dilemma- Whom to support? Whether a man should stand by her mother or support his wife in times of conflict. No wonder, it is the only (unavoidable) reason why men fear to get married. They very well know if they support his wife, Mumma will feel bad, or if they take mum’s side, their wives would feel infuriated. It’s true that both equally need his back which is then it gets difficult for a man to sustain a balance between both of life’s important relationships to maintain family peace.
Mother- “The loveliest masterpiece of the heart of God is the heart of a Mother.” A mother is the one who carries you inside her womb for 9 months and bears pain to nurture you in the best way possible. She is that noble creature who sacrifices her whole life to give you an upbringing everyone praises of.
On the other hand, the sacrifice of the wife is inevitable. She is your better half, that person who leaves her home to completely relies on you in her new home. She gives birth to your children, takes good care of them and what does she want in return is few words of appreciation and love.
As far as concerned, you would have understood that with these two women, you can’t think of the good time and happy family. Being a man, both the significant relationships need to be valued wholeheartedly.
There is a great piece of advice which can prevent you from being a bad husband or a bad son. Whenever any conflict happens, listen to both the dear women of your life patiently. Don’t come to any conclusion instantly. Maybe you don’t know the whole matter and you can’t give any decision based upon half knowledge..as it will make your relationship soar. It is required that you must flip through both the sides of coin completely.
Understand your wife emotions…without overlooking the sentiments of your mother. One has raised you up while another one is looking after you. During the conflict, talk to your wife and mother personally. Make them understand each other’s viewpoint. Being the best man, it’s your responsibility to look that their bond deepens with affection.
There comes a time when the situation demands your strict yes in one’s favour. When the situation is that intense, first take your wife into the confidence and try to find the solution with her help. Make her understand how can it affect your mother. Believe it, she won’t feel bad and will support you. If your wife is firm in her decision and you know well she is right. Speak to your mom softly, take your Mumma into confidence this time and see the magic.
In the end, what you have to do is- ” Analyse the situation and deal accordingly.” Don’t let your home be a place of battle. Act with wisdom with a pinch of affection and love. It’s not actually strenuous to work as a catalyst to maintain a healthy bond of love, care, and support between your mother and wife.